Real Relationships: Don’t forget about yourself

The holiday season is typically full of fun and festivities: work parties, family get-togethers, nights out with friends, and don’t forget all the shopping! It is during this time of year that I find myself busy, tired and lacking in a little personal time. Don’t get me wrong — I love the holidays, the parties, the decorations and all of it, but sometimes I get tired.

The scheduling, the invitations and the cleaning followed by the cooking, shopping and general daily life are a lot! I feel like I always get sick shortly after New Years because my body just says, "Enough already."

The solution: There isn’t one. However, don’t forget about yourself in the midst of all the fun. No, I am not suggesting that you go out and buy yourself a gift because you “SO deserve it…”

I was thinking more along the lines of taking a few minutes every day to sit with a cup of coffee or wine. Read a book or take a little bit longer shower. Use the time to gather your thoughts, review the day or make lists of what you need to do that day.

Tackling all the cheer with a plan will leave you more relaxed anyway, but giving yourself a physical and mental reprieve will go a long way in ensuring that you don’t bite someone’s head off when they simply ask if you can pick up something from the store. (Of course I have never done that…)

You will find that the holidays are more fun, more festive and less of a strain on your resources if you remember to take care of yourself.

How do you survive the holiday season? Any great tricks to organize, tackle or refresh yourself? Share with me.

Merry Christmas!

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December 14, 2011 | 1:32 PM

My wife and I had some of our dearest friends over for a dinner party – it gave us an excuse to decorate our house, and turn on the Christmas/Holiday music. Our friends are very laid back, but fun to be with – especially when we’re all together. None of them have children, either – which made the experience all the more enjoyable (!)
We just served up a nice tri-tip from the grill – twice baked potatoes, a fun dessert (banana tifle) and wine. Lots of wine. Friends brought some fun snacks and candy. But the main ingredient was a LACK of pretense. Just a little glammor did the trick, i.e., a new tablecloth, cloth napkins, and we set out some of our nicer crystal. This was last weekend. This weekend, my wife and I are treating ourselves to a night at the Hyatt Regency in the City and take in the sights and sounds there. As for gifts: Nada. We paid to have my in-law’s carpets cleaned at Thanksgiving as their gift this year. Scrooge everyone else!

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